If you are going through a fresh breakup and are looking for ways to make your ex boyfriend miss you, then chances are your emotions are running pretty high right now. Up until now, to you, things have been feeling great. Okay, let’s be honest, maybe not so great.
Maybe not even good. But at least until now you knew you had a boyfriend. That security alone feels pretty darn good to a girl until one day you either have “The Talk” (and not the good one) or any of the following occurs:
- His calls, texts, and emails aren’t as frequent, or have stopped all together
- When he DOES touch base, he seems busy with work, life, or has an abundance of reasons why he can’t see you
- He’s back to spending more time with his buddies
- He’s stopped asking what you want
- He isn’t taking the initiative to see you as much, or at all
If so, you are probably in the process of a breakup, or, the deed has been done. That’s okay, the important thing is not to panic. You CAN get him back. But it will require you to make some changes and do things a little differently than you have been. Why? Consider the infamous words of the great Albert Einstein:
“Insanity: Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
Until now, you’ve been doing all of the things you usually do to get him, and to keep him. Now if you want to get a guy back, you need to use some reverse psychology on yourself. If you WANT different results, you have to do things differently. Here is one simple rule for you to start right now, that will help make him miss you and get your boyfriend back. It’s so simple you won’t even have to lift a finger.
Are you ready? A word to the wise, it may sound simple, but it won’t be easy, and it won’t even be comfortable.
But if you want to make your ex boyfriend miss you, and take the “ex” out of that phrase, you are going to have to prepare yourself for some discomfort.
Don’t call him, he’ll call you.
This one sounds so easy, but it’s the same step that almost every woman that wants to get a guy back messes up! Step AWAY from the phone! Why? It’s impossible to miss somebody that you keep hearing from. DUH.
But it is very difficult to realize that when you are in panic mode and obsessing about every word and detail that has brought you to this point. It’s okay, we’ve all been there.
What this step involves is that you step away from the phone in EVERY possible way. And in this day and age, you also have to step away from the emails, from the Facebook, from the Twitter, from the MSN, and from every single avenue that you have used to communicate with him up to this point.
Do not call. Do not text. Do not Facebook. Do not chat. Do not….do any of these things, these are not ways to get your boyfriend back. All of these things are ways to keep pushing him away.
You’ve already tried texting, calling, or emailing though haven’t you? As Dr. Phil would say, “How’s that working out for you?” As Einstein would say, “Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is the very definition of insanity.”
We’re not saying you are crazy. But it feels that way when your heart is broken. Remember what we said, this wasn’t going to be easy, or even a little bit comfortable. Not calling him and not staying by the phone waiting for him is going to go against every fiber of your being.
It will feel awful. It will downright suck, actually. But it won’t suck as much as it will if you keep barraging him with texts, emails, chats, and Facebook “likes” that are getting ignored.
If you want to make him miss you…well then…make him miss you. He just simply can’t if he keeps hearing from you. Make him miss you!
File this one very simple (but not so easy) rule on how to make him miss you in your long term memory drive and….watch the magic unfold.